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What I have Learnt From Having My Mum as My best Friend

It is always parent’s wish to have their kids trust and confide in them. But this changes as we grow up. Mix with different kids and get exposed to the outside world. It sometimes gets to its worst, when the parents get caught up with their careers. Am sure they would want to spend more time with you but gets complicated. But this doesn’t cover those parents who make no effort to create time for their kids.

Mum has been actively involved as the major bread-winner. So her schedule has been super crazy since we were all born. But she came out to be the best mum ever. She is our hero and we love her very much. She does more than just being a mum. When bullies headed our way, she literally fought those battles for us.

I remember one incidence when one boy from the neighborhood snatched my present for being the best performer in our class. He not only took my present but beat me up. I went home crying and all sad. Mum could not take it. She closed her shop and head to the  boy’s home. She brought my present back and gave the boy a good beating. It felt good and she has always remained my hero.

This was just one of the many fights and situations, mum defended us. Such acts helped us to build a friendship relationship with her. We can talk to mum about anything without holding back. She has a magic way of balancing between parenting and being a friend.

She can be tough if need be. And yes, she could give us a beating to reckon for a longtime. She didn’t have to warn us twice. No one ever wanted to be on her wrong side. Dad some times had to give us a heads up to run for our lives as she approached when we were on the wrong side. This worked some times but other time he was the one who gave us the first round of beating. Before handing us to our mum. So we had to be disciplined and be good kids.

The relationship we have with our mum allows us to talk with her about almost everything. From our fears, happy moments, jokes, among others. She has the best communication tactic. From the funny texts, calls and face to face talks. She ensures we all keep in touch almost everyday for some of us who are away from home.

Due to the constant communication, she is always aware of whats happening in our lives. She also has a way of knowing when things are not okay. She goes deep and take serious any issue we mention to her. She likes it when we are happy and heading the right direction.

Mum's best
Mum’s best

Personally,

I normally see like she has a magic way of reading me from miles away. More than a few times, she has called when I was too sad to even tell her what was going on. Her voice alone over the phone, made me break down if things were going side ways. She would allow me cry it out over the phone. Then slowly help me overcome the issue. After everything cools down, she then assist to make sense out of the whole scenario. She goes ahead to play her role as both a parent and friend effectively.

This happened to  me quite a lot and am always grateful for having her as my mum.Am sure it would have been worst if she was not the way she is.

Parents are naturally tasked to protect their off-springs. No matter how you may turn out to be or what you may get yourself into. They are to stand by you. Protect you and ensure you get the best.

When they are able to be your friend, it’s even better. Because you get to understand that it is okay to confide in them without fear of being judged. They get to offer friendship and not judgement. With the years of experience, they offer wise advise and keep you in shape. They allow you a safe space to air out what’s not doing okay in life without fear.

With that, you don’t have to bottle up issues or run into bad company full of bad advises. Things are changing and advancing at a lighting speed. Advises are all over and easily available, most of which are not so positive. Internet may have made things in life but wise counseling from the elders is vital.

Schools, colleges and universities are full of different people. Both bad and good. Choosing friend can be tricky and ending up with the wrong crew may be very easy. Different kids have been raised differently. Some are strong to fight peer pressure while others are too weak to resist it.

While I was joining campus, mum wrote a letter and hid in my handbag. She didn’t tell me about it but texted that she had place a surprise in my wallet. My first thought was that she had placed more pocket-money. So i didn’t rush to check until I fully settled in the campus. I opened my surprise on my second day in campus.

It was a letter. I was confused why did mum need to write me a letter yet we texted every time. But she explained that too in the letter. She knew texts will keep coming from her, and she didn’t want whatever she was writing be  too far from my reach. She wanted me to always read the letter when I felt lost or got confused or afraid.

Surprisingly, whatever mum wrote me in that letter came to be true during my time there. It served as a reminder and strength. And she offered the best background and foundation.

Wait, what about the light moments we share with her. Sharing jokes and laughter in our long phone calls. And even better in our long nights chats when i visit home. This has helped us manage to live bravely above the effects left behind by our dad’s alcoholism scandals. We are able to concentrate on the positives and accept him as he is. She has taught us to accept, love and respect him as our dad, irregardless of what alcoholism turned him into.

Are your friends with your kids? Are you friends with your folks? Do you agree friendships between parents and their kids will help reduce the suicides among youth?

I would love to know your thoughts.

I Don’t Care

Gone are the days,
When I really cared on others,
Not hurting their feelings,
But now,
I don’t care.

I used to concentrate on other’s feelings,
And in return ,
Hurting my own,
I only cared about them,
But now,
I don’t care.

I could be so afraid to “harm” anyone,
Not able to say truly what I meant,
As long as, they were happy,
I struggled to keep it that way,
But now,
I don’t care.

Most of them made me their door mat,
Requested for abnormal favors,
After all,
I always said yes to them,
But now,
I don’t care.

Saying NO was a foreign language to me,
I sacrificed everything to just not giving it when applicable,
The response was what you already have in mind,
No one cared about me,
But now,
I too don’t care.

My third eye is open,
And I come first while the rest follow,
“NO” has become my closest buddy,
No more “pleasing”
Because I don’t care.

It feels good to say NO once in a while,
To have people understand that you are not their doormat,
That you matter,
And most importantly,
Understand that you don’t care.

You are worthy some TLC,
Being concerned is okay,
But caring,
Choose who to give it to diligently ,
Who really needs to be cared for.

Giraffe : The Tallest Animal In The World

Giraffe is the tallest animal in the world. Their legs alone are taller than most of us. They are amazing animals. And when you across the ones in Kenya. To be specific, in Giraffe  Center. You will definitely get a kiss from them. This is after you feed them some carrots.

They belong to the family Giraffidae and happen to be the largest ruminants. They are mainly found in woodlands and Savannah. They are native to Africa.

They are found in Savannah

Being ruminants, they feed on woody plants. That is their leaves, fruits and flowers. They mainly feed on the acacia trees.They are browsers and get an opportunity to feed on the plant parts that can not be accessed by other browsers due to height.

They are social animals

Giraffes are social animals and live in herds. The herds may include bachelor males or related females with offspring.

Each female herd has a dominant male. Who is responsible of raising the off springs. The male has to fight his way to the dominance status. The fighting is known as “‘necking”.

Giraffes have strong and very long necks. During the “necking” the weak giraffe gets injured pretty hard. The fight only ends once one of the giraffe concedes. The defeated giraffe end up alone as he can’t go back to the other males. He is a loser.

The defeated giraffe are the best target for their predators. Since they are already hurt and weak. And no brothers around to boast his protection. Their predators include wild dogs, lions, spotted hyenas as well as leopards.

Giraffe are not easy prey to hunt. This is because of the dreadful kicks that can send the predator t instant death. They are also very strong but not very fast. The predators work in groups to hunt them.

Species and sub-species of giraffes are as follows:

Southern giraffe (Giraffa giraffe)

• Angolan giraffe (G. g. angolensis)
• South African giraffe (G. g. giraffa )

Northern giraffe (Giraffa camelopardalis )

• Nubian giraffe (G. c. camelopardalis )
• Kordofan giraffe (G. c. antiquorum )

West African giraffe (G. c. peralta)

Reticulated giraffe (Giraffa reticulata)

Maasai giraffe (Giraffa tippelskirchi)

In Kenya we are lucky to have two species and one sub-species of giraffe. Namely:

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