Do you have to be angry to tell the truth and some thing you have kept in secret?
How many times have you yelled the ugly truth to others while angry. Without blinking right to the face at the top of your force. Or silently walked away on someone when they annoy you. Sending a message that you are angry at them.
Just reflect on those moments you were angry. At someone or something. And most importantly, things or someone you hide the negativity from. The ones with things or behaviors that annoys you but you have been doing your best to lay low.
Then you snapped and told them as it is. No usual sugar-coating. But the naked truth. No caring about their feelings or what they will do/feel after that. It gives you some satisfaction in your heart. And you are like, men at long last I said.
We are told that bad decisions are made when we are emotional at both extremes. That is, when you are extremely happy or extremely pissed off. You may end up making promises you will never be able to keep. Or say something that you will regret for the rest of your life.
Everything has two sides. Bad and good. Yes you may end up burning your bridges. But you will have release your truth. And I am not saying we go round making these “wrong decisions”. It’s important to respect and be careful of other people’s feelings. You can just go away and no one gets hurt.
What I would like us to learn from our angry moments. Is what we clearly see at those particular moment. Weigh their effects since you are not ”corrupted” by others forces. Utilize that moment and learn from it. Learn to always be true to both yourself and others. It saves everyone’s time and cause no harm or hurt.
Lets stop causing trauma to our loved ones. Letting them know how they offend you in high tone and angry face. Am sure they will appreciate a calm conversation. We are humans and prone to error. So we are always expecting correction and directions where we are not doing right.
Don’t assume that they will not be able to handle it. Hence keep it a secret from them. Until that unplanned day,they do the worst and you yell out all the banked faults you have been banking in your head.
You may argue that you avoid shouting and chooses to remain silent. So technically, you allow yourself to hurt within. You let it boil all your internals and may end up crying it out. Which never clears everything for good. But just a temporary solution. Due to the taking in and never talking it out. You end up exposing yourself to stress diseases.